Okay let me try this again, Apparently last version too personal, Shit I am dieting so im probably Cranky! You saw those Double chins on #starerwives….Take 2 (action)
His EX Is A Crazy Bitch (Pay Attention)
It doesn’t take 20 years for a woman to know the basic characteristics of the man she lives with, has children with and has been in all kinds of situations with.
Okay what I’m trying to say with this post IS…. Ladies we need to listen better! If a man says I don’t want a commitment — He actually doesn’t want a commitment. If a man has 4 kids by 3 different baby mammas — He is promiscuous and not responsible. If you current boyfriends Ex is angry, bitter or crazy… that sucks BUT somewhere in that craziness lies the key to that mans dating and relationship characteristics. Just LISTEN!
There is no right and wrong JUST finding a mate or person who works or matches your needs and desires. By listening and being honest with who that person is at the beginning, It will save you unwanted heart ache later. So women use other women to help you find out who the man you are now dating is…..
Long term side bitches: Don’t kid yourself into believing you know the man who is keeping you around like an adult diaper. In case shit gets messy he can use you to feel safe! You haven’t truly been in genuine situations good or bad to see the real character of this person.
See, as women we have something (and there’s no name for it). It’s what allows us to forgive even when the evidence is against us, or to stick by our men even when they have exhausted their designated amount of Fuck ups, and to makes us believe time after time that our love will change him..it was put in place so families and children would be born. It can be our worst or best quality depending on us.
Pay attention!!! When the guy your seeing or dating ‘s ex (and this is where a crazy ex comes in handy because they are usually public with thier information) gives a peek into why they broke up. Pay attention Bitches! Learn to speak the universal language of freshly hurt Ex girlfriends.
Use these examples as a reference:
~His ex’s Instagram photos go from glam shots of herself, to flowery phrases of love and heartbreak, then eventually go to pics of her with caption that say stuff like “I’m Back” or “He’ll never know love like this again” = He cheated and lied about it.
~His ex, posts every 2 seconds pictures of her and her new man doing everything together…even shopping (yikes) = He spent more time working or doing anything else but working at his relationship.
~His ex is a bit bitter and still engages in trying to get him angry and jealous…she is now exercising her power, this is the ex that will prob find you and warn you. Beware! = He was raised to believe a man’s job is to provide and after that he does what he wants.
~His ex post on FB over and over about spirituality and how “Love is free” or she will constantly talk about herself being an independent woman = He only has money to offer and no real love connection.
~His ex after the break up lost major weight, looks younger and does things she never did before, she doesn’t engage or try to get him back = He was controlling and or abusive.
~His ex and her friends will mock and treat him like a Stan on all forms of social media, just no respect = He is really broke or lied about money, status or his job.
~You don’t need his ex for this one…This type of man is honest and up front with women. He’s not looking for commitment. His ex girlfriend just didn’t listen = He wouldn’t or wasn’t ready to make a commitment.
(Even if the EX is a lunatic…remember women are the same and majority want the same when it comes to love regardless of race, economic status or geography.)
I can, with over 50% accuracy, guarantee you a guy’s last 3 ex’s reasons for the relationship not working are the same with very slightly minor differences. In his defense so what?! That is just who he is…it’s up to you to pay attention and decide truthfully if that’s the kind of man and relationship you want. (Here it’s important for me to remind you to refrain from fantasizing how you will change him.)
If you are an older single mom who is working at capacity and has always had to pay your own bills, you are going to be okay and even welcome a man who uses his money to show his love. Hey why not? If he’s descent, seems to be a good enough family man and seems exciting on the outside… that kind of spells relief for you. But be WARNED…if he cheated on his ex’s because of insecurities (which is typically the tell tale sign of men who use money to keep relationships in line) he is YES cheating on you too Boo Boo! You see the key to this or any mans relationship patterns lie simply in his past relationships. Men can — but usually don’t change their patterns of what makes them comfortable. Just decide if its right for you.this will save you being surprised or placing blame later.
You see men get a bad rap unnecessarily. They are actually honest usually who they are, it is us women who fantasize, believe we can change or DON’T listen to them when they tell us
Unfortunately there will be NO mixtape released with this post!
– Monica Taylor