Why am I a PANTHER that dates younger men? Besides fact they are super yummy…allow me to go deeper.
We have to start by saying a GOOD MAN is the best man to date. Period. This has little to do with age, status or finances…IT’S ABOUT THEIR CHARACTER AT THE TIME WE MEET THEM.
I started something called the #Pantherlove movement. It simply is about women in my age range (34-47) who are naturally youthful, who often get mistaken for younger, who are in shape, who enjoy being active and current, who are just fabulous and look & feel sexy as hell, who don’t even consider subscribing to societies age parameters. Well I invite these women to consider the benefits of dating a bit younger and here they are:
1. Go where the opportunity is, if majority of men our age are married, involved, bitter or just not available doesn’t it make sense to open yourself to where the most opportunity lies.
2. Younger men are sometimes more open to new experiences. Contrary to a conclusion most people jump to…all younger men are not looking for a mother or to be taught or taken care of. I found myself about to turn 40 and starting over, I wanted to try and catch up on all the things I may have missed the last 20 years of my life, from taking care of others, to travel, to sports and YES new types of SEX! Older men I found were more set in their ways (nothing wrong with that) but younger men were willing to experience these things with me and not judge. Some even ended up teaching me. (Don’t know if I can share what I was taught…YOWZA)
3. They appreciate and expect when dating an older women that we will lead the friendship/relationship in terms of the level of commitment. For sexy women our age, majority are either getting divorced or coming out of long term relationships or confident enough to try different types of relationships than we did in the past. So the pressure to commit or to conform or not be yourself to fit into a relationship is greatly diminished. Yes, you may find your soul mate in a younger man…but there wont be as much pressure in the process. You will have time to find and be you.
4. They simply make you feel sexier and naughty. They still, in my opinion, have hope and are okay being more open. This is with dating and certainly with sex.
Now your probably saying this all sounds like gravy…but do I have to deal with PlayStations, no money to take me out and immaturity for some hot sex?
So I say, think about this…..Have you or your friends experienced any of the following in men closer to their age: Baby mama drama, not having their own place, constant complaining about work BUT does nothing about it, afraid to commit, plays money games, drives a car nicer than the house they live in?
Maturity, responsibility and just basic life coping skills are not so much based on age as they are on experience, up bringing, values and most of all paying attention to their actions and behavior. It makes sense that the older a man is the more learning experience they will have thus making for a better partner. And yes in best case scenarios this is true, But I can only say in dating younger men who I consider to have an acceptable and admirable level of maturity…I NEVER pay on dates, I have never been disrespected or embarrassed by their behavior, it’s an automatic understanding that my children come first and I like that they are okay being honest about where they are in life instead or pretending or selling a dream.
There is a type of younger man for anyone wheather you just want amazing sex or are looking for a relationship maybe. Just be open, there are NO absolutes with any group.
I am not saying this is for every woman but I strongly suggest every women over 35 at least once in her life experience a younger man’s love (or just incredible back breaking sex) #real talk
Disclaimer: I write about my life and my experiences. I am not licensed or a therapist but share the different methods I’ve learned in helping me find solutions & resolution. My biggest source of inspiration is the feedback I receive from my audience. Trust me…I’m listening!