Those I love the most, you know the past few months I have been MIA in my new role as reality star for Starter Wives Confidential. If I do nothing else I must thank my entire support system of friends & family, who to my surprise without hesitation gave me support without even knowing details of my journey…
I chose to be a silent partner last 15 years or so in my business ventures as well as my marriage. No applause needed, marriage and family is a private matter in my opinion. To be part of this show was a choice I made as mostly a business woman but also as a woman who now understands I deserve to speak for myself as it pertains to my own life. Something other women are most angry at the Starter Wives for. Even if you never see it on screen… please trust that myself and every woman on the cast not only struggled with being strong enough to tell our stories but deserve to have a reality show NOT for only the men we were involved with but because each woman is cazy, dynamic, dramatic, struggling, strong and entertaining in their own way. I take responsibility for my choice to do Starter Wives and am okay now making my own decisions and taking responsibility for my mistakes. (Still not knowing how all this will all turn out for me.)
Not all celebrity wives are the same as you will see this on the show. I am extremely proud of the mother I am to my children first then for the wife and friend I was to the man I knew since I was 11 years old, but also my accomplishments in business and how a little Venezuelan/Puerto Rican girl from the Bronx built her own empire without a blue print. If I’m relentless…its because that’s in my DNA. I don’t celebrate mediocrity but I am also relentless with my love and loyalty and that’s why I have such an amazing group of friends & family. You may not like me but trust me – you will respect me.
It would be wrong to not acknowledge the man I was friends, girlfriend and wife to for the last 21 years. Hopefully you will see that in no way do I attempt to hurt, disrespect or speak for you. This is about me and my strength to step out on my own and take responsibility. You are a tremendous father to our two children and we will always have mini versions of each other in them. When the lights go out we will always be a family and there is nothing more important than family. I hope you one day respect my strength, courage and fact that I am Happy, smiling and as I accept you for you, you can give me the same. I love you always (FC150)
Now what you really want to know…
I can speak for myself and say I am proud of the choices I made and how I handled myself on my road to reality. Before signing on to be a reality star I promised my most important people in my life I would not fight, embarrass , get ghetto, hurt others, the stuff that makes ratchet reality TV. I’m proud to say I stuck to that. (Trust me, it was hard as hell at times.)
I will say before you blame networks totally for the way women of color are portrayed on reality television keep in mind they cant show what doesn’t exist, as long as we are willing to act like that for cameras they will show it. Now on the flip side…reality TV does NOT breed an environment for stability, reason or positivity for the most part (or it would be a documentary…right) So we are ALL to blame networks for signing on women who they know aren’t stable enough to survive a negative environment, The women who choose to be a part of something that can possibly bring out the worst in them and YOU…yes YOU for watching and giving great ratings to table turning, red wine throwing and women of color tearing each other down and embarrassing ourselves. No ratings, No participants, No viewers = No Ratchet reality. We all live in a glass house!
BUT…I ask all that read this to tune into the series of 8 episodes of Starter Wives Confidential to not ONLY see the box get kicked, me cry until my false eyelashes fall off, red wine get thrown or fists fly, but for the honesty myself and my 5 cast mates gave in sharing the most intimate details of our life to show women we are all the same and to make you laugh and smile and there is lots to laugh at and I promise you will leave at the end of the series with some hope and inspiration. That I’m most proud of.
P.S. Special Thanks to My Mami (Carmen) I Love you more than you know, Daddy, Jayden & Hunter my best creations and my inspiration, Teisha my BFF, Patti for everything, #Bigtex for being a friend first
**I write about my life and my experiences. I am not licensed or a therapist but share the different methods I’ve learned in helping me find solutions & resolution. My biggest source of inspiration is the feedback I receive from my audience. Trust me….I’m listening!**